Work shouldn’t have to hurt

I have often associated work with certain things: competition time pressure being inside, in front of a screen trying to prove my value to others trying to find a formula for success feeling isolated, stressed and anxious having a boss that I feel anxious to please...

The gift of despair

“Oft hope is born when all is forlorn.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Return of the King Surely despair is the last thing anyone wants to experience. Feeling hopeless; dejected; lost; how could that possibly be a good thing? I’ve had red, dry, itchy skin since I was...

10 strategies for lasting change in 2019

  For evidence that resolutions are a waste of time, just look at how the gyms,  yoga studios and pools are full to the brim in this month, and by February, everyone seems to have given up and there’s space in your swimming lane again. But if it wasn’t possible...

Neutralising your negativity bias with gratitude

‘Paradoxically but wonderfully, focusing on someone else’s happiness will actually make you happier.’ – A.J. Jacobs Author A.J. Jacobs was having dinner with his family. Although he’s not religious, he likes to say thank you at the start of each meal to the people who...

7 things wine teaches you about mindfulness

Last week we ran our first Winefulness event and we were delighted with how well it went. Here are some of the comments:   ‘It made mindfulness fun and about pleasure’ ‘I learnt to savour each sip’ ‘Eating the wine and cheese together was bliss’   A Wineful...

The Mindful Banker podcast launch

Today is World Mental Health day. What better day to be launching our new podcast. We will be interviewing people in financial services who successfully balance performing at a high level in their work, with looking after their wellbeing. The show is presented by...

Six days in solitude — my story

Before my first silent retreat, I was quite apprehensive about how hard it was going to be. Would really intense emotions surface from the dark recesses of my mind? Would I get really bored? Would it be hard to meditate for that long? Having done a few of them, I...

The heart of all your problems

In my one-to-one coaching work, people ask me to help them with all sorts of problems, and particularly over the last few months, I’ve started to notice something they all have in common. Here are some of the issues: depression, stress and anxiety anger/aggression...

How to let go of sadness, mindfully

Sadness is not good for productivity. It makes you sluggish, distracted and unmotivated. Wouldn’t it be great if there were on ‘Off’ button you could press so you could just get rid of it? Well, you can’t! In fact, trying to get rid of it is counter-productive. It’s...

How to get a free coffee at Pret a Manger

Pret don’t do loyalty cards. Instead, their baristas are allowed to give away a certain number of free coffees every day. I’ve received several. The last time it happened, as I walked out with a big smile on my face, I reflected on what I do that makes it more likely,...