Neutralising your negativity bias with gratitude

‘Paradoxically but wonderfully, focusing on someone else’s happiness will actually make you happier.’ – A.J. Jacobs Author A.J. Jacobs was having dinner with his family. Although he’s not religious, he likes to say thank you at the start of each meal to the people who...

7 things wine teaches you about mindfulness

Last week we ran our first Winefulness event and we were delighted with how well it went. Here are some of the comments:   ‘It made mindfulness fun and about pleasure’ ‘I learnt to savour each sip’ ‘Eating the wine and cheese together was bliss’   A Wineful...

The Mindful Banker podcast launch

Today is World Mental Health day. What better day to be launching our new podcast. We will be interviewing people in financial services who successfully balance performing at a high level in their work, with looking after their wellbeing. The show is presented by...

Six days in solitude — my story

Before my first silent retreat, I was quite apprehensive about how hard it was going to be. Would really intense emotions surface from the dark recesses of my mind? Would I get really bored? Would it be hard to meditate for that long? Having done a few of them, I...

The heart of all your problems

In my one-to-one coaching work, people ask me to help them with all sorts of problems, and particularly over the last few months, I’ve started to notice something they all have in common. Here are some of the issues: depression, stress and anxiety anger/aggression...

How to let go of sadness, mindfully

Sadness is not good for productivity. It makes you sluggish, distracted and unmotivated. Wouldn’t it be great if there were on ‘Off’ button you could press so you could just get rid of it? Well, you can’t! In fact, trying to get rid of it is counter-productive. It’s...

How to get a free coffee at Pret a Manger

Pret don’t do loyalty cards. Instead, their baristas are allowed to give away a certain number of free coffees every day. I’ve received several. The last time it happened, as I walked out with a big smile on my face, I reflected on what I do that makes it more likely,...

The five blocks to happiness

Many people think of me — and I’ve thought of myself — as a ‘glass half full’, ‘sees the good in people’, ‘expect tomorrow to be better’ kind of person. Well, the week before last I was on a 10-day Buddhist retreat, which included seven days of silence. It created...

How to double your life expectancy

This video contains tips on how to: Avoid the feeling that your life is passing faster and faster Savour the everyday moments of your life Wake up out of negative, repetitive thinking It includes a mindful eating exercise, so have something to hand that you can try it...

How to overcome anxiety

This week I’ve created a video that contains: A 30 second technique to calm you down when you’re feeling anxious Advice on how to reduce anxiety in the long term Some psychology to help you understand why you might be prone to worrying If it’s more...